Hello, all! I hope this post is appropriate...if not, please let me know.
I am in a tricky situation with my lovebird, and I don't really know where to turn. About three years ago, my boyfriend and I bought a beautiful peach-faced lovebird. She was born around August '06, and we bought her that fall or winter, I cannot remember (she still had a dark colored beak at the time). When we first got her, the agreement was that she would be his bird, and that if we ever parted ways, he would take her with him. Well, he and I broke up two summers ago, and he took Chikorita with him and has taken care of her since then. Recently he went on vacation, asked me to babysit her, and suddenly decided he never wanted to have her back. Now I am left with Chikorita, and although she is darling, I don't really feel like I would be able to give her the best love and attention she needs.
I clean her cage weekly, I give her fresh fruits and veggies (along with "oat groat" and these bright-colored pellet things), I rotate her toys often (she has many of them)...but I work a full-time job and she is alone ALL day, every day. I try to take her out at least once a day and play with her/let her sit on my shoulder for a little while, but I have heard that lovies need about 6 hours of attention a day, and I am not even giving her nearly enough. I feel somewhat neglectful...I hate to use those words on myself because I love animals so much, but it's true...
For the past few days, she has been very aggressive. She scrambles around on the bottom of her cage in a small cardboard box I put down there, then jumps out and "attacks" her bell toys ferociously. If I try to get her out, she bites me! She has always been loving in the past and bitten me only a few times, but now I feel like she resents me or something. The only thing I can think I did wrong is neglect her, though I also did remove a toy that she (he????) kept humping vigorously...ha...
For a while, I was completely against giving her up for adoption, but now I am seriously considering it. I have done a lot of reading online about needing to be very careful about who I give my bird to, and this makes me very afraid. What if she ends up in a home where she is getting even less attention than I am able to give her? But at the same time...what if I find a home for her that *IS* much better than her living with me? If a home with more love & attention is possible for her, then it would be wrong for me to keep her.
I just feel so uncomfortable giving her up with the possibility of never seeing her again, or the possibility of her being in a less desirable situation than she is now. I keep trying to reason with myself...she is in a good, healthy, conscientious home now (though minimum attention)...should I take a risk for a chance for a life with more attention?? If only I had a friend, who I knew and trusted, or had experience with birds before, who wanted her...I would feel safe giving Chikorita to someone like that...but I don't, none of my friends really know anything about birds.
I am so torn about this issue. Any advice would be so appreciated...those of you who have adopted, or had to give up a pet to adoption...
I live in Portland, Oregon, if that helps.